2017 Is Coming To A Close

Get ready, get ready, get ready 2017 is coming to a close which can only mean one thing….every coach out there and their mother, and their first cousin is going to be posting about Goals, Goal Setting, Make Your Goal, Hit Your Goal and why you need XYZ to hit those goals.

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and you know I’m right.

So how did you do with your 2017 goals….did you hit them all?

believeI believe in goal setting.   I really do, but there is a part of goal setting that really sucks….and that is the fear of failing.

Has this ever happened to you?   You’ve set a goal, and you shared it with your friends and family and they just thought you just lost it, thought you were losing your mind,  and they tried to reel you back in, but you just couldn’t be stopped.  You were going for yours, you were going to take what was yours, it felt just within your reach.

So much so that you spent all your time, all of your energy, all of your resources,  and all of your money towards this goal and

BAM

low and behold….it just didn’t pan out, didn’t work out, your huge goal fell flat.   Perhaps you needed more direction, more guidance, or maybe you just had too much going on at the time.

n-WOMAN-PAPER-BAG-ON-HEAD-628x314And there you are, left holding the bag, holding on to the shame.  And that feels lousy.

You know what happens next?

You never, ever, ever again show up with the same level of enthusiasm and the same level of trust again when approaching your goals.    Because of the residual sticky residue of:

  • failure,
  • guilt;  and
  • shame

that stays with you on a cellular level.  Until you clear it.   And that is where EFT (Tapping) really comes in handy!  At clearing the trauma you experience after a failed goal.

So we’ve already established that  EVERYBODY is going to be talking about goals over the next week or so….and I’m pretty confident that 92% of the people reading this blog, will set a goal.  So let’s just get it over with now, ok?

Write down your ONE HUUUUUUUGGGGGGGGGE goal for 2018.

Look at it, breathe it in and focus in on what you are feeling, what are some of the thoughts and beliefs that come up for you?

Are you hearing words like:  “It’s impossible” or “this can happen for other people but not me”; or “this is just a pipe dream?”

Are you feeling some: excitement; or fear; or confusion; or perhaps some doubt?

Are you wondering who you would have to be in order to have your HUGE goal succeed?

Write it all down.

Everything you have written is exactly why you haven’t hit this goal yet or the thoughts and limiting beliefs that will try and block you for hitting your huge goal.  So are you ready to let it go?

Good.  First, I want you to look at that goal again.  And say out loud “It’s Impossible”.  How true does that feel to you on a scale of 1-10, with 1 being not true at all and 10 being I must be a fool to believe I could even reach this goal.  Write down your number.

Now, tapping through the points, here’s a tapping script to clear the limiting belief of “It’s Impossible”

It’s impossible
There is  No way!
No how!
It’s crazy! It’s too much!
It is way too much
This goal is too big!
How could I even get to that goal?
It’s impossible
And I know it’s impossible
I believe that this is impossible
It’s just way too big
It’s too big for God
It’s too big for the Universe
It’s too big for the Law of Attraction
It’s too big for me
No one has ever made this kind of goal
Well, some people have
But not me!
Not in a million years
It’s impossible
I know this because I can predict the future with accuracy
And I’ve never been wrong about anything
And I always know what’s going to happen
And I’m telling you there’s no way this is possible
There’s no way this will ever come to pass

Ok, now take a deep breath and re-rate how you feel when you say out loud about this goal “it’s impossible”.  The intensity should have gone down.  Keep tapping on the round above until the intensity is somewhere between a 0-3.  Now let’s move on to the positive round:

Tapping through all the points using the following phrases:

I still don’t believe it’s completely possible
I mean, it seems outrageous
But I’m choosing to be open
To the limitless possibilities found in the  universe
To the limitless possibilities beyond what I can currently see
I am somehow having faith
That everything I need to accomplish this goal
Will surprise me by occurring in the right way at the right time
Isn’t it wonderful when resources appear?
Impossible things happen every day
Miracles happen every day
What if I could just open myself up to the possibility
And focus on it with a positive intent
Allowing it to come into my reality
As outrageous as that sounds?
I choose to be outrageous!
I choose to be outrageous!

So now, take a deep breath and notice how much more excitement you are feeling about what’s possible!

I’m looking forward to hearing about those goals you’ve tapped through and conquered!

 

Consuetudo pro lege servatur * much?

Hi Beautiful — tell me, how do you really feel about money?

woman questioningAs a transformational wealth and intentional living strategist, and from working in legal management for a few decades I often hear, “I don’t know how to make more money”, “why am I not making more money” and “I need more money….”

So I ask my clients “how do you really feel about money?”

This often takes the lawyers, the yoga instructors, the entrepreneurs, you know all those bosschicks that make up my client base, a bit by surprise.

I hear of course “I want more money Keisha, that why I’m working with you, Keisha, I need more money, I want more money….”

Consuetudo pro lege servatur * much?

We all have our early money stories, even 6 figure earning bosschicks. That’s why we do a money mapping to discover all the hidden stories we have that come into play every time we even think about money. Stories like:

  • “people like us /people like them”;
  • “you work hard for your money”;
  • “the love of money is evil”;
  • “there is never enough money”;
  • “money can’t buy love, happiness, you fill in the blank”….

All  those generational stories that have been deeply embed into our core by well-meaning generations of our family, type stories (or on the flip side those generational curse type stories…selah)

Well, is it any wonder that struggling with money, even for 6 figure earners is simply our  modus operandi?

My clients quickly discover that changing their money, means changing their story, and together we leave no stone unturned.

Isn’t it time to rewrite your story?

*legalese for: the customs of the place and time will have the force of law.

Affirmations Don’t Do A Damn Thing

As boss chicks we’re all pretty positive right? And we know even when things look bleak we state our affirmations, we start affirming, decreeing and declaring!

But secretly do you ever feel like your affirmations, your decreeing and declaring is simply mocking you?


Even with your decrees and declarations, all of your positive affirmations:

  • Are you still up at night worried about money, or how you’re going to make ends meet;
  • Did the client you were praying for suddenly fall through
  • The launch you were counting on suddenly fall flat;
  • Were you passed up for the promotion; or
  • Find yourself giving, giving, giving, but not getting back in return?

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