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How To Feel Grateful Even If You Do Not Have All You Desire

As we approach Thanksgiving and the holiday season in the United States, there is a lot of emphasis being placed on feeling and expressing gratitude.

A question I am often asked is

How do you feel grateful even when you do not have all you desire?

First, let’s break the myth that feeling gratitude means you have to be a high-vibing unicorn farting out rainbows at all times person.

I spent 18 years studying multi-millionaires, and while some were high-vibes, most had emotional range, and a handful were complete 🍆.  

All of them were comfortable in acknowledging how well they were doing, and how far they’d come.

Gratitude is an appreciation and acknowledgment and there are levels to it. Here are three things you can do to increase your capacity to stay in gratitude.

Journal

Go back

  • 6 months;
  • 1 year;
  • 6 years

and acknowledge and appreciate how far you have come, how supported you’ve been and how resilient you are. Journal on

  • the blessings;
  • (b)lessons;
  • the abundance that has laid itself before you at your feet;
  • the food you’ve eaten;
  • the schools you’ve gone to;
  • the experiences you’ve had;
  • the clients you’ve guided,
  • the synchronicities and opportunities that have presented themselves. 
  • The paths that you have walked
  • The air you breathe
  • The bed you sleep in.
  • The moves you’ve made.
  • The mistakes you’ve overcome.

All of it has led you to the only moment that truly counts, Here, Now.

Acknowledge it, appreciate it, and honor it. 

Spend some time here and allow the gratitude to rise up like a heart fire as you read back your list.

One of my favorite manifesting techniques is a time-collapse gratitude journal stack. Here’s how to do it:

List 15 things you are grateful for:

  • 5 from the past,
  • 5 from the present, and
  • 5 from your future goals. 

Now as you journal, mix up those 15 items and express in the present tense (as if it is all happening now) why you are so thankful, and read that back to yourself with conviction every day until your 5 future goals have manifested.

Uncover The Hidden Agendas Lurking In Your Unmet Goal

Another way to increase your capacity to hold a deeper level of gratitude is to examine with radical honesty the hidden agendas lurking in your current desires. When you don’t uncover and clear the hidden agendas in your currently unmet desires, you create these really big expectations and devastating lows as you co-create your goals. 

To uncover the hidden agendas in your currently unmet desires, ask and answer  the following:

When I reach this goal, I’ll finally feel:

1.

2.

3.

When I reach this goal, I’ll finally know that I’m 

1.

2.

3.

When I reach this goal, I’ll finally have proven to [who] that I’m [what]

Once you have that list, just notice all the wonderful things you plan to feel, and be and the validation you will have.

I feel confident that your list are things that you require and desire, and none of those things are inherently ‘bad’…and they are so much weight to put on a goal.  I’m willing to bet that those are all things that you get to BE right now.

In personal development we talk about the success formula:  Be, Do, Have

You Be the person first

Which leads you to DO the actions

That gets you to HAVE the goal

It’s the moving up the spiral from Want, to Desire, to It Is Done.

In other words, you bring what is currently hidden and weighing down your goals, to the forefront and meet those needs directly.

Now answer this:  

If I don’t reach my goal I plan to feel [what]

How do you plan to feel if you don’t reach your goals?   Whatever that answer is it is the contrast to gratitude.   Gratitude is not just honoring and appreciation.  It is trust and acknowledgment that it is done.

When the energy is less than gratitude, doubt has crept into the atmosphere.  It’s not just doubt.  It’s self-doubt.

Ritual

To quickly jump into greater depths of gratitude, ritualize your gratitude practice with a Dihosana (hosanna) and have fun with it!

This is an expression of adoration, praise, or joy. It’s the rainmaking dance, an acknowledgment of gratitude for the rain that came before, and the rain that is to come, both brought into the present space of Now, It Is Done

I wish you a very happy Holiday season, one filled with love, abundance, and gratitude.

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Tapping For Money Manifesation

A question I am frequently asked is

Why does Tapping work so well for money manifestation?

First, let’s discuss what Tapping is.

Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), commonly referred to as Tapping, is a clinically proven mind-body tool that turns off, shuts down, and deregulates the fight or flight response, also called the stress response.

By tapping on acupuncture points, tapping allows you to access your subconscious mind, turn off the fight or flight response in the moment, you can also disconnect it.

This is where Tapping is incredible. You can disconnect the fight or flight response from something that you’re thinking about and clear the blocks that have held you back from receiving your desires.

When you desire to increase your wealth, it’s important to recognize that there is a mind/body component to wealth that you can harness to increase your wealth. I call this the mind/body/money connection.

When you think about the six different kinds of money (or lack of money) it triggers the following:

  • The emotions that literally course through your nervous system;
  • Thoughts that run unchecked 24/7/365; and for some
  • Connected traumas

Those heavy emotions, unconscious thoughts and trauma triggers actually block your ability to attract a positive outcome.

That is why it often feels like the law of attraction is not working for you, and you can’t seem to feel your way into the law of assumption when it comes to money manifestation.

You can’t just think your way into your manifestation. Your entire frequency must match your desires.

This is why Tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique) works so well for money manifestation.

Tapping helps you to

  • resolve and clear blocks,
  • release the heavy emotions,
  • release the associated traumas and habitualized instinctual actions

as you

  • open to new possibilities,
  • focus on a specific money goal,
  • make new decisions,
  • receive intuitive downloads; and
  • become the woman who receives what she desires.

Tapping will literally move you from instinct (which is typically fear and lack-based programming based on prior experiences and external stimuli)

to intuition (which bridges the gap between the conscious and non-conscious parts of your mind).

Tapping has changed the following money stories for me and my private clients:

  •  Leave the golden handcuffs of a corporate job to start my coaching business
  • From overlooked to promoted in 15 days
  •  Pivot from crickets to 4 $250,000 contracts within days
  •  Leap from $5K months to $50K months in 10 days
  •  Receive a $3,000 tip
  •  $100K+ month and retired her husband
  •  Experiencing $1K+ in product sales in one hour (with average product price point of $20)r
  • Consistent business income after months of striving and never quite arriving

All of the testimonials above began with a money mapping makeover.

During a money mapping makeover, you trace your mind/body/money connection as it is currently mapped in your body, nervous system, and energetic field as you:

  • uncover the emotions that course through your nervous system;
  • Capture the automatic (and often limiting) thoughts that occur; and
  • release connected familial, generational stories and money traumas

around the six types of money.

I have created a recorded Money Mapping Makeover video training series which includes targeted rounds of tapping to release those stories and recalibrate your nervous system as you create a new money reality.

The Money Mapping Makeover contains 12 videos and targeted tapping scripts for each type of money, all for $97.

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The Presence of Success

33 years sitting at corporate tables, as a melanted woman primarily surrounded by type A white men who argued and negotiated for a living, sharpened my masking and shapeshifting abilities until I no longer identified with an identity other than ‘professional’.

I experienced this from a perspective of ‘not enough’ which manifested as shapeshifting into what I was ‘expected to be’ and the experience felt truthful.

Here’s the real truth though.

I was seated at those tables because my very presence is success.

I do not need to identity outwardly as anything other than who I am and what I bring to the table.

I create an atmosphere of success.

Allow me to reintroduce myself:

I am magic from sunup to sundown, moonrise to moonfall, and every moment in between.

I am magic.

Success is the atmosphere I create.

– Keisha Dixon

So the next time you feel as though you are

  • people-pleasing;
  • shapeshifting; or
  • ‘fitting in’

see this as your personal invitation to rediscover who you really are and acknowledge the power that you hold.

And remember, or perhaps know for the first time:

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What Do You Believe Of Others?

You’ve heard in personal development “you are what you believe”.

It’s true and you take it so personally, as you run to your I Am affirmations:

  • I Am Powerful
  • I Am A Blessing
  • I Am A Powerful Coach
  • I Am A Magnetic Communicator

And, it’s not just about you.

“You are what you believe” is a full statement and also infers:

You are what you believe of other people.

So what are you believing of other people?

The beliefs you hold about potential clients show up before you ever meet them.

For example, when you are pricing your premium solutions and have thoughts of:

  • Who will be able to afford this?
  • They won’t be able to afford this.
  • What if they don’t get results?
  • How can I know they will get results?

That is the voice of believing others as less than:

  • Capable
  • Resourceful
  • Able

The frequency of your vibration towards others determines how you experience them, and how they experience you.

The persons most likely to invest in a premium service know, but have not yet embodied, that they are capable of receiving the solution.

They want to work with someone who believes that is possible for them as well.

Hold the vision of your client in the highest version of themself before you even meet them.

In your content, your marketing, and your pricing.

Envisioning them in that standard communicates your assuredness in their capabilities and in yours.

It’s a win/win/win.

And you were created to win.

How do I know? Because I am holding the vision that

You’ve already won.

#monetizeyourmind

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Are You Drawing A Blank When Marketing Your Message?

When it comes to posting on social media, so many coaches and healers search for the correct way to share their messaging, only to come up blank, not sure what to say, and when they do post, it doesn’t seem to land as they intended.

Because the post was weighted down with hidden agendas.

Now, I know the phrase “hidden agenda” may sound harsh and treacherous, and mostly that is not the case.

Those hidden agendas could simply be the thoughts:

When they read this post I will book a client so I can finally:

  • Breathe again
  • Feel Relief
  • Feel Successful

Now you know that

  • Breathing,
  • feeling peace (relief from worry),
  • feeling successful,

are not harsh and treacherous, they are real and necessary requirements

And

they are way too much weight and power to put on a piece of content.

You get to meet those needs directly.

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​Your true expression is woven into and connected back to your heart-aligned offer. Especially when your offer is heart aligned from your own mess and miracle personal journey.

Sharing from your heart includes sharing from your own mess and miracle and when accustomed to writing from your head, writing from your heart feels unfamiliar and unperfected

Which is exactly exactly exactly what is being called forth.

That mess is the stuff of miracles. That’s where the test transforms to the testimony. Where the lesson becomes the blessing. Where the mess becomes the miracle.
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Gone are the days of “I have all my shit together.”

No, you don’t, and if you believe you do, you’ve abandoned parts of you that will cry out for attention in some really inconvenient ways.

So meet those real needs directly, the ones that have previously created too heavy a weight on sharing your content.

If you need assistance with this, book an It’s My Time consult. I have several processes that will guide you there.

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Imposter Syndrome Its Affecting Your Health and Your Wealth

“I wonder how long it will take before someone figures out that I’m not very good at this. I shouldn’t have been given this job. I don’t know what I’m doing.”

Have you ever caught yourself thinking this way? These types of thoughts are common in those that experience Impostor Syndrome.

And it is an insidious affliction, causing you to suffer with pervasive and consistent thoughts of inadequacy, even when you’ve proven yourself to be entirely capable. It’s as if you can’t convince yourself how great you are!

And the person experiencing Impostor Syndrome feels this way all of the time.

Continue reading “Imposter Syndrome Its Affecting Your Health and Your Wealth”

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Want To Advance Your Career? Raise Your Visibility Outside The Office

Advancing your career usually depends on your ability to earn recognition outside the office.

As much as you may like your coworkers, your next job offer or major client is likely to come from someone who doesn’t work by your side each day.

Regardless of your position, you can gain people’s attention.

Try these techniques for promoting your career while helping others online and off. That way they’ll remember you when they’re ready to make new hires or looking for a consultant.

Build Recognition Online

  1. Update your LinkedIn Profile. Your LinkedIn profile may be more important than your resume these days. Keep your summary current and compelling. Recruiters may be shopping for passive candidates or potential clients may be looking for someone with your qualifications.
  2. Seek testimonials. Collecting positive feedback from others strengthens your credibility. Ask for recommendations and endorsements on LinkedIn. Gather quotes that you can use on your website. Offer testimonials to others too.
  3. Join forums. Take part in discussion groups related to your field. Be positive and focus on people who you may want to follow up with.
  4. Post comments. Let colleagues know when you’re impressed with their articles or find them thought provoking. Provide useful information and links to other reputable sources. When appropriate, include your website or other contact information so others can get in touch with you.
  5. Start a blog. Contribute to your company blog or start your own. Stay on topic and provide fresh content so readers will have a reason to keep coming back. Interview leaders in your field or comment on a popular news story. Review a new software package or report on a major conference.
  6. Publish articles. Contact sites that advertise for outside authors. Check their policies on making payments or providing bylines. If possible, include your photo, social media links, and other contact information to drive traffic to your website.
  7. Become a media source. Journalists need experts in all kinds of fields to verify facts and give them quotes. Develop a relationship with reporters who specialize in your field or work at local newspapers. Email them with a brief bio and story ideas. Reply promptly if they request details for a piece they’re working on.

Building Recognition Offline

  1.  Participate in your professional association. Become active in the local chapter of your professional association. Attend the monthly lunches and show up early for networking. Volunteer to serve on the welcoming committee or help with planning the annual fundraising dinner.
  2.  Attend networking events. Check the community calendar in your local newspaper. Register for a workshop on social media or drop in on a book signing by a leader in your field.
  3. Be prepared. Business leads can turn up anywhere. Carry business cards with you in case you run into someone interesting while you’re having your dog groomed or washing your car.
  4.  Speak in public. Brush up on your public speaking skills. You may be able to arrange high-paying appearances, or arrange a slot on the schedule at the next career day at your daughter’s middle school.
  5.  Volunteer in your community. Select a charity you care about and propose a volunteer project that will involve working with others. You could research historical information or strategize a marketing campaign.
  6. Mentor others. Reach out to students and young professionals. You can learn a lot by teaching others. Uncover exciting opportunities by making your strengths and accomplishments widely known. Sharing your expertise with others online and face-to-face is a great way to extend your network and become more marketable.
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10 Signs You See On The Road To Success

Success is interesting. No two successes are exactly the same, but there are many similarities. As your success grows, you’ll notice certain signs along the way. Knowing these signs in advance can be motivating. As you notice one, you’ll feel a new wave of motivation since you know you’re making progress.

Keep your eyes open for the signs of success:

  1. A greater willingness to take risks. Playing it safe is sure sign that nothing spectacular is going to happen. You’ll find yourself taking more risks if you’re on the road to success. There’s no other way to do it.

  2. More integrity. Success requires the involvement of others. One of the most effective ways to build relationships is to demonstrate a lot of integrity. You’ll even find yourself doing the right thing when no one is watching. It becomes a habit.

  3. The ability to deal with obstacles and setbacks more easily. The more you attempt, the more obstacles and setbacks you’ll face. You’ll get plenty of practice and soon learn that these phenomena aren’t that big of a deal. You just deal with them and continue toward your goals. This is an important sign. Great successes require dealing with great obstacles.

  4. Gratitude. The more you attempt to accomplish, the more you appreciate all the “little” things you already possess. The importance of many things the average person takes for granted becomes more clear. Your family, friends, home, food, and clothes are more critical to your happiness than a shiny, new car.

  5. Less concern regarding the opinions of others. You’ll find that many of the least successful people you know are those most concerned with the opinions of others. They’re paralyzed by fear and refuse to do anything that might lead to failure and criticism.

  6. Raising of your standards. Once you’re satisfied, you’re done making progress. Can you imagine Oprah Winfrey only making $75,000 per year? She would do everything she could to increase that amount. When you raise your standards, what was your ceiling becomes your new floor for your behavior and your results.
  7. A clear vision for the future. It’s hard to be successful if you don’t know where you’re headed. A clear objective makes the next step much more clear. If you don’t have clear vision for your future, get busy creating one.
  8. Freedom from the past. Successful people are focused on today and the future. They don’t have the time to worry about what happened 10 years ago or even 10 days ago.
  9. More self-discipline. Those that struggle with success imagine that success requires amazing effort and spectacular accomplishments. But success is boring 99% of the time. It’s the result of taking effective, and often boring, actions day after day after day.
  10. The ability to laugh at yourself. When you see what success entails, you’ll laugh at your former self. It’s easy to see how silly you’ve been once you taste success on a regular basis. Being successful is a game that doesn’t need to be taken so seriously. Enjoy life and laugh at yourself.

Some successes are easier to witness than others.

Other successes come more subtly and take longer periods of time.  However, there are signs you can expect to see on the road to success. Learn these signs and keep your eyes open. Each time you see one, you’ll gain a boost of motivation and know you’re on the right path.

One way to quickstart your road to success is by setting an income goal.

When you set an income goal, and remove the resistance behind the goal, all of your actions, ideas, inspirations, strategies and tactics will line up with the goal.  You will also remove distractions and clear obstacles to getting to your income goal.

Yet, many  never take this critical goal setting step because of their current belief system, or resistance is going unobserved and unchecked.

When you do not take the time to observe the resistance (and clear it) you will automatically default to your belief system, your set point. 

There is no mystery in where your set point is.  It is exactly where you are right now.  The amount of money you have right now  is your set point. 

Without setting an income goal and getting crystal clear on what resistance comes up, in 3, 5 or 10 years you will default to your set point, which is exactly where you are right now.  It will look just like today.

The first step on the road to success starts with your income goal.  Sign up here to schedule your Customized Income Goal Assessment today.